Ricardo L. Salcedo, LCSW, MSW
I believe in the power of encouraging clients to delve a little deeper, even to challenge them to go a little further. I believe that if we are to experience growth, we need to try to reach beyond our comfort zone during the process. Because to reframe an idea, a thought, a feeling, new information about us must come to the surface. Reframing usually happens when we challenge ourselves to look at aspects of our lives we normally wouldn’t.
I believe that the reason you would want to work with me is because, during our sessions, it will all be about you. I believe your therapist should be hyper-focused on you.
I will, however, share some of my thoughts to help us expand on an idea or to provide a needed point of reference. The reason I am hyper-focused on you is because by trying to understand you I will be helping you understand yourself.
I hope that this explanation about me resonates with you. Click on the link to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to ask any additional questions you may still have before getting started.
In addition to offering psychotherapy via video, for your convenience, I am also offering in-home psychotherapy within several Northern NJ counties
Psychotherapy is an amazing resource anyone can utilize to help them on the road to becoming their best possible self. But what is it? Psycho just refers to the mind. And in the same way that you might go for physical therapy, here you would participate in therapy for your mind. But rather than thinking of psychotherapy as fixing or repairing something, I prefer to think of it as a decision one makes to improve the health of one’s mind.
I believe we can all improve how we think, feel, and behave. And that this work can improve the quality of our lives. The reason one would even consider participating in psychotherapy is that life can be quite complex. When we are children, we are sponges to anything and everything that we come in contact with, and quite often, our caregivers, although they likely meant well, may have delivered messages that we were not prepared to process properly, and these messages often become at the very least confusing to us as adults on a subconscious level.
Many of these confusing messages can become barriers to us becoming our best selves. Whether our caregivers mean to hurt us or not, because at the time we did not have the tools with which to filter the information correctly, we may now as adults be using those messages as limiting beliefs that can be holding us back. Again, these messages may have become barriers to our achieving our full potential in our love life and or careers. And I believe that this is why we should normalize psychotherapy and view it as a valuable resource.
As of today, February 2024, I have been a husband for 24 years, and a father for 17. I have also worked with other fathers for over a decade.
I believe that the first step to becoming a better dad is becoming a better you. Remember, everything changes when you change. In the same way that your family suffers when you are angry or sad, your children’s emotional health will improve when you are in a better state of mind.
The second step can be increasing clarification around what an ideal father can be. And once we know what a father does or can do, then we can improve on those ideas – on your unique philosophy of what fatherhood can be.
So, it can look like this: a) improve your mental health by identifying limiting beliefs that keep you from being your best self and dad, and b) at the same time you are becoming a better mentor, guide, leader, teacher, and greatest supporter of those beautiful new human beings you are responsible for.
And remember, because your children also need their mother, it is going to be very difficult to become an amazing father if we are not also working on becoming the best possible partner, husband, co-parent, or supporter of their mother.
It is never lost on me how challenging it can be to make the decision to speak to a therapist. I promise I will do my best to make you feel as comfortable as possible throughout the entire process. I am confident that after we speak, even if you decide that we are not a good fit, you will be comfortable enough to say it.
I hope you are as excited as I am to get started on the process of improving your mental health.
Step 1: Choose a time that works for you for the 15-minute consultation.
Step 2: Breathe. It’s going to be ok.